The possibility of forgiveness is a hard concept for the human soul to grasp. It demands that we let people go. The very fact that we struggle so much with each other, fighting it out in courts, getting intelligence Infinitum, shows that we have not cut the cord between us. We refer to each other as familiar friends; that which has become so familiar we need no clock to reach you. This can not be forgiven.
It is much easier to forget about it, to pretend as though nothing has happened, and to allow our peace and enjoyment to return to us. This makes the most important tasks of the day feel less burdensome if we can forgive each other. Forgiveness is an attitude and not necessarily a performance. We create a way to be at peace with the current state of affairs.
Who and what holds the hardest burden for each of us? Are you easily offended? Do others believe it could be you? It is likely that the bitterness that held me down for years was the responsibility of others and not the fault of any real reason. The same is true when the responsibility for someone else’s mistakes plagues you because they are innocent.
Forgiveness cannot excuse anyone, and it will not in any circumstance excuse the wrongdoer. But it will allow you to put an end, at least partially, to the weight of the burden you carry around, no matter how great or small, and it will allow your neurons to occupy your time and compute up versions of the past.
When you verbally forgive someone else things change and so does your emotional state. It is not as light as before, nor is it dark. It is a welcome serene light. Things are not as they used to be; at best, you feel a bit lighter, and that never quite leaves when you forgive. An atmosphere of peace and goodwill prevails. The best of courses is that the other person experiences the attractions of the emotional relative’s state- they confess; it creates bitterness, a fresh start, a feeling of moving one closer to a shared understanding. That personal energy, however, never lasts. A new person emerges which inspires more forgiveness and peace. This is the potential of this action: the person might change, but do not expect things to be the same as before. Let it go, but you do not have to live in the same old bitterness.
It is strongly advised to examine regularly all the angles before choosing to forgive or stay angry. The decision is yours and you need to know how to forgive. Subsequently, you would wish to forgive. You could visit an advice clinic near you. The guidance could help you to evaluate, understand and process the situation and your feelings on the crime, whether it is professional or passionate.
If you have experience someone else’s action as punishment-your karma, established in past incarnations will catch up with your face again. It can be a very sad experience to watch another person’s actions and to see one’s actions of your kids confirmed by repeated actions. In nature, the pressure is always felt by the one who wants to positively show in the middle of the dessert. A sum of karma or experience is flying at you and it is usually negative. That is why it is so important to forgive.
But if you forgive and forget, the person who hurt you may for sure continue living exactly in the manner himself, probably inflicted since childhood, to satisfy his strong urge to hurt with energy. That is sad. Also, you cannot gain another person’s trust to the same extent you have got. It would be unfair not to forgive if there is a reason.
You have to forgive as much as you never want to feel the wrongs, within your own and also in the persons whom you have hurt. They are one.