Nothing shows as much that you Really Care as when you Weep!
It may not always be the right things you weep for – often it will be yourself, and that goes for the empaths too. Ouch! Empaths do have a tendency to care a lot about themselves, about keeping themselves unaccountable and about having somebody to blame for all their troubles and issues – the devil, or the psychopaths.
Actually, what I just wrote looks a lot like the things they say and write about us, the psychopaths. I wonder, perhaps we’re not so different after all when it comes to doing the wrong thing and having flaws?
But then, they always have a way out: They suffer easily, and that gives them something to weep about – when they’re not busy weeping about Tsunamis and people who live at the opposite side of the globe.
I can’t help but finding the way most people approach the concept ‘Caring’ or ‘To Care’ highly peculiar!
Why is it, f.ex., that if something sad, bad, disastrous, devastating, etc., happens to somebody – it may be an individual, a group of people or a whole nation, and it may be someone you know or it may not be – either way, the moment you learn about it having happened, you’re expected to ‘care’. Some events demand more caring than others, and some events demand you to care more than others.
It’s as if there’s a formula for how much and how long you should care for each type of event. – But what happened to spontaneous personal feelings and being genuine and true to yourself and your own feelings?
I think this is where morals come in. You are SUPPOSED to care, not so much because it’ll help anyone in any way – it won’t! – but because that way you signal your loyalty to the status quo. So it’s a type of formalism.
Whenever did formalism become integrated with feelings or emotions? And whenever did formalism become one with ‘caring’ for people in distress?
The way we’re supposed to ‘feel’ and ‘care’ for people who live far away and whom we’ve never met, never will meet and know almost nothing about and, is assumed a naturally and universally ‘good human trait’.
And this is while we don’t care enough about the poor in our own society to even consider doing something in order to help one of them – because “I don’t know them!”
The contradiction and hypocrisy is that the not knowing someone is a legal reason to not care for as long as that someone is so close that you could actually easily make a difference if you so choose. But the second you hear about people you can’t reach you’re expected to ‘care’, and perhaps even go out of your way by sending clothes and band aids, etc. to them – half way around the globe, while the poor guy at the corner 50 yards further down the street is ‘Someone I don’t know’ and ‘After all, I can’t take care of everybody!’
Do my reader see the same discrepancy as your gentle host does?
But hey, maybe if we weep long and loud enough that Tsunami will have never happened when tomorrow comes! And if it doesn’t work, then at least we’ve dutifully shown that we CARE!
When people need to moralize over Feelings and Emotions (the two are allegedly not the same thing) I know something is amiss, and that the Feelings and the Emotions are not what they’re portrayed to be.
True Feelings and Emotions need no moralizing. They come naturally and easy, and you need not contemplate them in order to understand them.
When you weep because you’ve been given a good whipping and are in pain, then you have a natural reason to weep for yourself. And I for one see nothing wrong about that. I don’t personally weep much, in fact I loath weeping and I don’t think it helps for anything. It doesn’t make me “feel better afterwards”, it only makes my head ache and my face and eyes swollen and red. That’s how I remember it, and I have a good memory, so though it happened last many years ago, I’ll rely on my instinct and leave it to others who know how to get the best of it.
And I must say, some people are GREAT weepers!!
Today’s music video is for all the Weeping in the world!… –
– And for my Readers!… *S*